The Power of Community: Finding Support and Sisterhood in the Perimenopausal Journey

Perimenopause, the transitional phase leading up to Menopause, can be filled with a myriad of emotional and physical symptoms. From fluctuating hormones to sleepless nights, weight/body shape changes, brain fog, and unexpected mood swings, it can feel overwhelming and all consuming.

Not to mention the impact these symptoms have on our capacity to continue to function and show up in our lives.

For many of us, these changes can feel very isolating, particularly in cultures where the natural ageing process is viewed with apprehension or stigma. 

However, it doesn’t have to be this way. One of the most empowering steps we can take during perimenopause is to find a nurturing, supportive community—a sisterhood of women who understand and can walk the journey with us.

Why Community Matters During Perimenopause

The power of community during this transition cannot be overstated. Connecting with others who are navigating similar challenges offers the opportunity for emotional validation, reduces feelings of isolation, and creates a space for shared learning and growth. Often, simply knowing that you’re not alone in your experience can help. 

In a world where so many aspects of our health, including Menopause, are still shrouded in secrecy and not spoken about, joining a community of like minded souls who are walking the same path can help de-stigmatise and normalise these conversations.

It provides a platform where we can openly talk about the struggles we’re facing—whether it’s night sweats, non existent libido, or feelings of depression, whether to trial MHT—without judgement or fear.

By fostering open dialogue, a supportive sisterhood or community can become a vital source of emotional support, helping us to feel understood and less alone.

Emotional Support and Shared Wisdom

Perimenopause and Menopause can bring about emotional shifts, often with little warning. Anxiety, constant irritability, and sudden sadness are common as hormone levels fluctuate. Sharing these experiences with a sisterhood of women who are also going through this, can be really comforting and validating. 

Women often find that hearing someone else’s journey or listening to practical tips—like using certain natural supplements, practising breathwork techniques, or adjusting daily routines—can spark their own healing path. These shared experiences can remind women that this transitional phase, though difficult, is part of a natural life cycle.

Types of Supportive Sisterhoods

There are a few ways to find a supportive sisterhood during Perimenopause and Menopause. Each offers unique benefits, and the right one often depends on your personal preferences and needs.

1. Online Support Groups

Online communities have exploded in popularity, particularly with the rise of social media platforms and forums dedicated to women’s health. These groups can be a lifeline, providing an accessible way to connect with other women experiencing similar symptoms. The anonymity of these online spaces make them particularly appealing to women who may feel uncomfortable discussing their challenges face-to-face. However, these can also have large volumes of people in them and can feel like you are lost in the crowd.

There are many Facebook groups, Instagram communities, and forums specifically designed for perimenopausal and menopausal women. These virtual spaces often provide a wealth of shared resources, articles, personal stories, and professional advice, making them a great tool for education and empowerment.

2. Local Meetups

If you are someone who prefers in-person connection, local meetups could be an option. Meeting other women in your local community who are going through similar experiences can create lasting friendships and provide a deeper sense of belonging. Think informal gatherings, coffee chats, or organised workshops on topics like managing stress, healthy eating, or Breathwork practices during perimenopause.

Many communities also offer specialised classes or support groups through wellness centres, yoga studios, or women’s health organisations. Attending local events can provide an opportunity to create meaningful face-to-face interactions, and may even form supportive bonds that may last well beyond the perimenopausal years.

3. Wellness Retreats

Attend a women's wellness retreat. Wellness retreats specifically designed for women in midlife are a growing trend. These retreats offer a deeper, more immersive experience, often combining workshops on mental well-being, and physical self-care. Alongside educational aspects, retreats usually offer an opportunity for relaxation, mindfulness, and self-reflection. Being in a beautiful environment, away from daily stresses, allows you to connect not only with others but also with yourself in a more profound way.

Retreats often feature Breathwork practices, yoga, meditation, and nutritional guidance—all of which can help you manage the physical and emotional symptoms of perimenopause. Spending a weekend or week with a group of like-minded women can be deeply nourishing for the mind, body and soul.

Create Your Own Community

If existing communities don’t feel like the right fit, or if you can’t find one in your area, consider creating your own. This could be as simple as starting a monthly gathering with friends or hosting an online group where women can share their experiences. Whether formal or informal, your community doesn’t need to be large to have a significant impact. The important thing is to create a safe and welcoming space where open dialogue is encouraged and respected.

Here are a few steps you can take to start building your own supportive community:

- Reach Out: Begin by talking to close friends or acquaintances who may also be navigating perimenopause. You might be surprised to discover how many women are in the same phase of life.

- Host a Gathering: Organise an informal gathering, either at home or in a public space, to discuss the challenges of perimenopause. This could be the start of a regular support group.

Perimenopause is a transformative time in our lives, but it doesn’t have to be a journey taken alone. Finding a supportive community can make all the difference, offering emotional connection, shared wisdom, and a sense of sisterhood.

I hope this blog post has inspired and motivated you to reach out and join a community to get some support on your journey.

If you are currently navigating Perimenopause or Menopause and and would like to join MY heart centred community: ‘Midlifebreathcircle’ - send me an email at: catherine@catherineeliot.com and I will provide you all the details.

It is a safe and sacred space for connection, sharing wisdom and to experience the practice of heart centred Breathwork. 

Catherine xoxo

Founder/Core Clearing Breathwork Coach - Catherine Eliot